Hey there – welcome to number two Blog for Soulful Ceremonies.
I love Mondays!!
During my (other) working life I didn’t think I would ever say that! But as a Celebrant – I just love Mondays.
It is the day I finish all the final details to the Wedding/s I have officiated during the weekend – and press the submit button. Yes – we are all online now, so all the details of the couples I work with are entered into the Births Deaths & Marriages (BDM) – Celebrants Section, Web Page. And for the Couples who want it (and who wouldn’t – it’s included in my fee) I also order their Official Marriage Certificate.
It takes the BDM up to 4 weeks to register
the marriage and send out the Certificates
– straight to the couple’s house.
So once that’s all completed – I sort through all the photo’s that I have snapped along the day of the wedding – and ones others have sent me – kind of reliving the moment, and highlighting what shots will be fantastic for Soulful Ceremonies future use.
The next step is my favourite – I sit quietly and do my serious planning for the coming week. This usuallycomes after my morning meditation – great space to let go of last week – and anticipate the coming week. This may sound a little kitsch – but it is always exciting – knowing what I have planned –
but also anticipating the unknown.
I have no idea who might contact me
during the week – with so many different requests.
I start my planning with the most ‘urgent’ tasks – this might be completing the first draft of a future Ceremony – so the couple can read through – ask any questions or suggest any changes. I keep telling people who are planning their wedding – that it’s their day and their way. It has very little to do with what I like – this is all about crafting the right ceremony for the right people – and every one is unique.
I always ask the couples who choose me as their Celebrant:
“how would you like your guests
to describe your wedding ceremony
after the day?”
And nearly everyone answers that differently – but it provides a goal for me – and I work toward that.
Responding to all my emails and FB and Insta comments is high on the agenda too. I always attempt to respond to any requests or interests, as quickly as I’m able. All the people ‘out there’ who contact me for the first time – need to know I am responsive and reliable
I have never let anyone down – hope I never do.
I might have several appointments during the week – and all the other office-based work – fits in around my appointments. A typical week might include:
• Meeting with a couple for the first time – checking out if we are a good fit to proceed with their wedding plans. I present them with a Folder which holds a lot of information – they get to keep this
• Meeting up with couples to sight their ID and complete their Notice of Intended Marriage (NOIM) – this can be done up to 18 months before their wedding – but no later than one month before
• Meeting with a couple to discuss the Outline for their Ceremony – and if they want particular themes throughout their wedding (I once officiated at a wedding of two scout leaders – who both loved Lego – that was specially themed!). The couple then decide if they want particular readings or rituals and how it will fit in with exactly what they have planned
• Meeting with a couple for a Wedding Rehearsal. Often this is at the Venue where they will get married – but it can also be at home/ in the park or any space available. We get to practice the timing for the bride walking in – and where to stand etc. We practice what it might be like to say the vows to each other (I have a little pretend vow sheet which helps couples to read, and then look into the eyes of their lover). Consider any environmental challenges such as steps, paths etc and work out how to navigate them
• Meeting with a couple to sign the Declaration of No Legal Impediment. This document must be signed as close to the Wedding as possible, but preferably not on the Wedding Day – many more important things to focus on, rather than signing a form before getting married.
It depends on how many meetings I have for the week ahead, as well as how many hours travel is involved, as to what time I allocate to all the remaining important tasks.
And next Blog – I’ll tell you about all the other things I get to do.